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VERSE, THOUGHT & PRAYER 11/27/19

 
 
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Thoughts on Today's Verse...

While many of us are richly blessed spiritually and physically, many of God's people face hardship and difficulty. You may be one of those in difficult circumstances. Please remember that God has not abandoned you. Jesus is the great reminder that God cares and involves himself with the broken, forgotten, and downtrodden. Please know as well, that tens of thousands are praying for you today in the prayer that follows.

My Prayer...

O God, please be with those whose lives are difficult and filled with pain and sadness. Please minister in personal and mighty ways to every believer with a crushed spirit. Dear Father, please rekindle the hope of every discouraged Christian. Empower them as they hold on to their faith. Pour out your Spirit with power, strengthening each weary and burdened heart. Help each one of your children hold onto his or her faith, finding a renewed sense of hope in your presence. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.


 

 

11/27/19

The Christian who truly takes pleasure in God doesn't love Him out of compulsion.  He doesn't feel fettered by his faith, driven to duty, or marched at gunpoint into right living.  No, when we love God with all our heart, every obedience is a pleasure. – Joni Tada


 

5 Thanksgiving Traditions Worth Starting - 11/26/19 (www.allprodad.com)

Timothy Diehl

TIMOTHY DIEHL

When you think of Thanksgiving traditions, what comes to mind? Likely turkey and football, maybe those weird hats with buckles the pilgrims supposedly wore. Often we celebrate holidays like we’ve always celebrated them. Little thought goes into it beyond the necessary preparations for either hosting a gaggle of family members or making the trek to the host’s home. Perhaps you spend some time planning out a menu or making sure you have a place to watch the big game.

All of that is perfectly reasonable and fine, but it’s hardly memorable. Here are five Thanksgiving traditions worth starting this year that you and your family will remember for years to come.

1. Coordinate a kickball game.

Thanksgiving typically results in lots of folks stuffing themselves with rich foods and passing out on the sofa while watching football. Fine. But what if this year you planned an epic family kickball game? I know you want to play football, but the advantage of kickball is that no one is any good. It’s far less likely that Uncle Ted will channel his 16 year-old self and pull a hammy trying to avoid a tackle if you play kickball. Also, most folks won’t get mad if you lose. Finally, it helps you snap out of the post-turkey coma you’ll all be struggling to pull out of.

2. Host someone without a place to go.

You’d be surprised how many people go through Thanksgiving without a family to celebrate with. You could invite someone who otherwise would spend it alone. Do you live near a college or university? There are likely some international students with nowhere to go for Thanksgiving. Are there elderly folks who live near you but far from family, or perhaps a new family that just moved to the area from far away? How could you create space at your table for someone eating alone this Thanksgiving?

3. Take a meal to a family in need.

Typically, shelters are overwhelmed around the holidays. Yet, there often are folks who can’t afford a lavish meal. Contact a local church or synagogue and ask if they know of anyone who would be blessed by a meal. Shop for it as a family and deliver it the day before.

4. Play gratitude roulette.

As you gather around the table, distribute 3×5 index cards to each person. Have everyone write down one reason they are grateful. Put the cards back in the hat and pass them around so that each person takes one that isn’t his or her own. Then each person reads what the card says and tries to guess who wrote it down.

5. Create a card shower.

Ask everyone who is joining you for Thanksgiving to find or create the funniest Thanksgiving card possible and bring it along for Thanksgiving dinner. Write down the name of each person attending the meal. After dinner, have each person read their card so you can all enjoy it together. Then, put the names you wrote down in a hat and pass it around. Each person takes a name and, at the same time, you all write a brief note of gratitude to the person whose name you drew in your card and give it to them before you leave.

With a little thought and intentionality, we can develop Thanksgiving traditions that add even more meaning and fun to the day.


 

3 Steps For Raising Peacemakers in a Violent World - 11/21/19

Timothy Diehl

TIMOTHY DIEHL (www.allprodad.com)

Is raising peacemakers in a violent world even possible? I believe it is. In fact, I believe it’s more than possible. It’s necessary and it is our calling. In a world full of violence, from wars to domestic abuse, we need to become and raise peacemakers in a violent world.

Let’s begin with definitions. A peacemaker does the work necessary to bring about peace. This is different from a peacekeeper, who is focused on maintaining the status quo. On the other hand, peacemakers are willing to do conflict, have hard conversations, and come up with innovative ideas to help warring factions (literally or figuratively) work toward reconciliation. The peacemakers are building a future in which we all can flourish. So let’s raise our children to be peacemakers in a violent world. Here 3 ways to do it.

1. Look in the mirror.

It’s easy to look at the violence of the past and shake our heads in judgment over those who went before us. However, a much better response, in my opinion, is to understand why they made the decisions they made. Then I can ask myself what I would do if that same situation presented itself to me now. What would it require of me?

It’s easy to shake my head in judgment over white folks who remained silent during the Civil Rights era. But if the majority of my neighbors and family members, and even my employer, held a belief strongly that I felt was morally wrong today, would I risk my relationships and perhaps even my well being for what I believed was right, or would I quietly disapprove, but be sure not to rock the boat to ensure my and my family’s security?

We need to help our kids to do more than just know history, but to do the hard work to develop moral courage so we don’t repeat it.

2. Have moral courage.

“It takes courage to have convictions. It takes even more to live by them.”
 

Of course, this leads into the next need: having moral courage. It takes courage to have convictions. It takes even more to live by them. Therefore we need to prioritize the cultivation of moral courage in our kids.

Here are some ideas: Identify local community organizations working for peace (domestic violence shelters, churches, NAACP chapters) and volunteer along with your child. Teach your children about courageous people who have sacrificed for the sake of others. Help your child take steps to stand up and say something if they see bullying or injustice. Help them know how to stay safe, but not silent.

3. Love your neighbor.

It’s easy to focus on global issues. The harder and, in my opinion, more important work is learning to live at peace with the people next door and under your own roof. How are you teaching and modeling conflict resolution with your neighbors and your family members? Are you practicing hospitality? Are you working to make your home and neighborhood places of peace?

It all starts there. Peace begins at home. It begins with you. None of this is easy, but raising peacemakers isn’t a choice if we want a world where our children cannot just survive but flourish.


 

Teaching Your Kids How to Have Hard Conversations - 11/19/19

Mark W. Merrill

MARK W. MERRILL

If we want our kids to become stable, healthy, well-adjusted adults, we need to do a good job of teaching them to have hard conversations when they are young. It’s hard enough for spouses to have hard conversations, so our kids need our help before they leave the nest. The advent of social media and mobile devices made communication easier but has also made effective communication more difficult. Messages are easily misunderstood, incomplete, or inflammatory.

So before our kids have to break off a relationship with someone, apologize for a wrong, ask for forgiveness, or share some difficult news with someone, make sure they have understood these important principles for having hard conversations.

Communicate in person if at all possible, not digitally.

We need to avoid using social media, direct messages, emails, or texts for difficult conversations. We’ve become so reliant on electronic communication that we are tempted to use it at the worst times or in the most delicate situations. These tools are great and appropriate for quick info, encouragement, and brief connections, but should be used sparingly, if at all, for emotionally-filled or important situations. Here’s why:

  • You can’t fill in the emotional, relational gaps in Twitter’s 280 characters.
  • You cannot communicate nuance and context and emotion in written words.
  • People fill in the blanks without context. For example, what you meant to sound sincere may be easily misinterpreted as facetious.
  • Digital communication can lead to impulsive and regretful communication.
  • Digital communication is easier to ignore.
  • In digital communication, complex issues have to be reduced to unhelpful levels of simplicity. That’s not wise.
  • Digital communication tends to elicit reactive responses, not thoughtful ones.

Bottom line: Nothing can replace face-to-face communication, especially when having hard or challenging conversations.

“Nothing can replace face-to-face communication, especially when having hard or challenging conversations.”
 

Practice the conversation with them.

Role-playing can be helpful. Take turns playing the role of your child, or the person they are talking to, and give it a go. Help your child think through the strong emotions that come with the conversation, to anticipate the reactions, to process and respond to such a conversation, and to get through any awkwardness.

Determine the best time, place, and environment for the conversation.

We know from marriage that there are good times and very bad times to bring up sensitive issues. But our kids may not realize how important the setting and frame of mind can be. Help your child determine the best situation and environment that would be most appropriate for the conversation. Just by working through some of these basics, we can help our children be better at resolving conflict and relating to others. For more questions to ask your child, check out our Q & U app.


5 Ways Your Wife Needs Your Support - 11/14/19 (www.allprodad.com)

Who doesn’t want to have a happy married life? It’s hard to imagine that anyone who says “I do” hopes the union is filled with discontentment, tension, or worse. So why do marriages often go off the rails? How is it that so many people wind up divorced or staying for the kids? We know what our own needs are and if they are being met, but do we truly know what leaves our wives longing? Do we care to try to meet those needs?

We can only control our own behavior and actions. If we are to lead, then we should set the example, making every effort to make our marriages thrive. So I surveyed several married women. In the process, I found these 5 ways wives want to be supported.

1. Acts of Service

It’s the little things that separate the good from the great. Someone has to handle all those mundane details that make up daily life within a functioning family. Those, unfortunately, are often left at our wives’ feet. So it means the world to a woman when her husband makes an effort to take care of dinner, run errands, or take the kids where they need to go—especially without being asked. Little gestures add up to big results. Work on instinctively knowing where your wife needs support.

2. Emotional Understanding

Your wife sees the world and feels emotions differently than you do. We are never going to be able to comprehend her fully, but we can provide compassionate understanding regardless. The best way to do that is simply by listening to her. Make it a point to ask your wife on a regular basis what she’s thinking and feeling.

3. Stronger Communication

Have you ever closely watched a great defense in football? What are they doing before each play? They’re talking to each other. Great teamwork is the result of strong communication. A marriage is a team in every sense of the word. If your team is struggling, it’s guaranteed that effective communication is absent. Work on clearly expressing yourself to your wife. It’s vital.

4. A Sense of Humor

When tension is thick, nothing is a better antidote than lightening the mood. When women talk about what they really love in a man, they almost always include, “He makes me laugh.” Not everyone is gifted with comedic timing, but everyone can pause for a second, see the ridiculousness of a moment, and quip something to break the tension. Family life is nonstop comedic material. Learn to use that to your advantage.

5. Validation

Your wife needs to know she’s doing a good job. She wants to hear that she’s a good wife, a good mom, and a good person. Validation is critical to every person in one form or another. If we never receive it, we stop caring, and that’s when things begin to head south. Make sure you compliment your wife consistently. Tell her thank you for all she does. Let her know how much you appreciate her.


 

10 Ways to Make Your Family Holiday Vacation Bearable - 11/12/19

All Pro Dad

ALL PRO DAD

We were in the final days of a cross country road trip. My son, who sat in the last row of the van, told me he had to go to the bathroom. He couldn’t wait for the next exit, he said, and asked if he could go in a cup. Reluctantly, we agreed and sent back an empty Big Gulp. Five seconds later, my daughter, who sat in the van’s middle row, started screaming. When I looked in the rear view mirror, I saw my son standing up with a wide-eyed look of fear, like he had lost control of a fire hose—literally.

I don’t know if you have ever experienced a urine sprinkler system in your car, but it isn’t pleasant. My poor daughter got the worst of it. The fact that his stream also hit my wife and me in the front seats was actually impressive. The Big Gulp cup didn’t see a single drop. As we cleaned up at a rest stop, he said, “Dad, this just isn’t my day.” “Not YOUR day?” I said, “We’re the ones covered in urine.” Hopefully, your next family vacation won’t feature an incident this disastrous. While family vacations can be tough, they don’t have to be. Here are 10 ways to make your family holiday vacation more bearable.

1. Give everyone ownership.

Everyone needs to be involved in pulling off a great family vacation. You aren’t the only one who can contribute to ideas, responsibilities, packing, loading, snacks, car-games, route, tickets, schedule. There’s something for everyone to do, no matter how young, and ownership goes a long way toward setting up the possibility of cooperation.

2. Remember, the trip is for the entire family.

It’s not “Mom and Dad’s holiday vacation and the kids tag along.” It’s a “family” holiday vacation. Parents can do a lot to guarantee success by building an experience that’s great for absolutely everyone.

3. Talk it up.

Weeks, even months ahead of time, share literature, assign research projects, and have a countdown on the refrigerator. Whatever it takes, make sure expectations are high and it’s a family experience from the get-go.

4. Invest in some great family games.

Bring along some standards such as SCRABBLE or Monopoly, plus try some newer games, like Apples to Apples.

5. Mix it up.

Even the best activities get tedious when repeated day after day, so mix it up. Research a variety of things to do and, again, get input from everyone.

6. Don’t go into debt over it.

“When it comes to holiday vacations, make sure to do something you can afford.”
 

When it comes to holiday vacations, make sure to do something you can afford. If the theme parks are out of range this year, or traveling to another state breaks the bank, then get creative closer to home. Don’t add stress by pouring money you don’t have into a black hole.

7. Schedule downtime.

Take time to rest. Schedule a movie and pizza in the hotel room bed the evening after a long day or even just a day of lounging.

8. Divvy up responsibilities

Who says the kids can’t plan the menu for a couple of days or lead a day’s adventure? Put the kids in charge for a day or at least give them some responsibilities to handle.

9. Build in flexibility.

Leave room in your schedule. Make sure one day in five is left open or a couple of afternoons in a week. Then pay attention to how the wind blows, and listen to the kids.

10. Develop family traditions.

One family tumbles out of the car every time they cross a state line. They gather around the “welcome” sign for a photo. Same at entrances to National Parks. It’s “what we do,” say the kids. Your family has a distinct personality—get creative in adopting practices that say “this is my family.”


 

3 Tips to Understanding Your Wife's Fatigue - 11/5/19 (Dr. James Dobson)


The 3 “R”s of Discipline - 11/1/19

All Pro Dad

ALL PRO DAD

Before we get to the 3 Rs, let’s talk about the big “L”—love. When you discipline your child, make sure you approach the process with a spirit of love. What does that mean? Well, for starters, don’t discipline your child out of anger. When you’re ready to explode, take a deep breath, say a prayer, and then approach your child. In other words, think before you act, and have compassion. Because discipline should never involve personal attacks.

Never call your children names or label them “stupid,” “lazy,” or “mean.” Don’t say things like, “How could you do something so dumb?” Never compare them to their siblings or to other children. Negative motivation might seem to work in the short run, but in the long run, it can have devastating effects. Children eventually can feel worse and worse about themselves and may throw in the towel. If they do try, they may feel like they are never good enough. So look into your heart and determine that you’re ready to discipline your child with a loving spirit. When you do, you’ll need to use these 3 R’s of discipline.

1. Remove

When trouble arises, remove your children from the situation and send them to their rooms. Removing is not timeout. The goal in “removing” is to give your child (and yourself) space to calm down. It also gives him or her time to think about what he or she has done in preparation for talking about it with you. “Remove time” should last at least five minutes. When you sense that your child is ready and calm, that’s the time to talk.

2. Reflect

First, ask your child what he or she did wrong. Don’t let him or her make excuses or blame others. Next, ask why it was wrong. And, third, ask how he or she will act differently next time. The primary goal of reflection is for your child to understand the motives behind the actions. You want to shape your children’s hearts so they will be self-motivated to change their behavior. Finally, tell your children the consequences of their actions.

3. Reconnect

Now comes a very important step—reconnecting. Make sure the bond between you and your child isn’t broken. Tell your child you love him or her unconditionally. Give him or her a hug and express your belief that he or she can make the right decision next time. And if you did lose your temper during the disciplining, you owe your child an apology. Your humble spirit will give him or her a living example of how to accept responsibility for actions and set things right.


 

TOP 10 Best Cities for Veterans (according to wallethub.com) - 11/5/19

10. Jacksonville, FL

9. St. Petersburg, FL

8. Gilbert, AZ

7. Virginia Beach, VA

6. Colorado Springs, CO

5. Scottsdale, AZ

4. Raleigh, NC

3. Orlando, FL

2. Austin, TX

1. Tampa, FL